Good Evening, everyone!
As many of you know I work in the counseling field. I have an MS in Clinical Counseling, and I am currently working on my PhD also in counseling. But I always get amazed at people’s reactions to things. I have discovered that if a 50 year old acts and reacts like a child, it is because when they were in fact a child in physiology they were not taken care of properly. But rather their loved ones thought that by allowing them to “be themselves” that was loving them.
I have learned that loving someone does not mean to take all of their negative behavior. It does not mean to allow them to be disrespectful, insecure, offensive, etc. Loving someone means helping them to be better. How? Teaching them, allowing them to explore their likes and dislikes, help them grow as individuals, help them become intellectuals. Plant a seed and see it grow. That is what my internship supervisor used to say to me while I was doing my Master’s. Maybe you will not see the end result, but give them the tools, and they will decide when to use them.
It really saddens me to see that people judge without knowing anything about the person. It makes me sadder when it happens to me. I have been a victim of this many times, and while I understand it is not a reflection of the person I am, but rather the person they are, it still hurts. Part of growing up is making a decision based on a person’s individual knowledge and understanding, not by what they think is or by others opinions or feelings. Maybe I am completely wrong, but I think the world could be a nicer place if people thought for themselves and gave everyone a fair chance. Of course this would not be the be all and end all of making the world a “better place”.
Just rambling thoughts, but in my mind they all make sense.
Have a good night, everyone. :-)